“Oh, if only my past was different, I wouldn’t have done this thing!”
We live in the past even though it is dead, if we live the same way as we did in the past, our present too will bear the same consequences.
I came across this line in an article which I read few years back. But this line stayed with me for quite sometime now, so I decided why not share my views about the same.
Every time we take a particular decision especially in the present, there is always some remorse or feeling of “Oh, if only my past was different, I wouldn’t have done this thing!”
What we overlook is that the decision we take is always in our hands, right from the people we let in our closer circle, to the energy we wish to receive and reciprocate, etc.
Thus the only way in which we can “Change” this past is by actively making efforts NOW in the present for the same. Otherwise, no matter whatever had happened to us in the past, if we do not make amends in the present, the past and present will bear the same results.
Let’s have a look.
The way in which one can change their part is by actively making efforts in present otherwise we will be stuck in the same never ending circle of wrong decision.
So how does one then take charge of one’s life and take more fruitful decisions?
Weigh the pros and cons of any situation – What are the pros of undertaking the particular decision? What are the cons? Do the cons outweigh the pros or vice versa? This will give you a clear picture whether the decision is worth your time or effort.
Ask questions:- Was I presented with similar situation in the past?. If yes, how did I deal with this part?
-What different approach could I use this time?
–What happens if I choose to respond to this situation in XYZ way and not ABC?
–Is this thing truly worth my time and effort, mental energy?
–Could I benefit from it in the long run, say 2 weeks, 2 months, 5 years?
–Do I have adequate information required to come to a final decision?
–Should I talk it out with a closed one about this and see what their view is?
Be Firm and Have confidence : You have to take a leap of faith and trust yourself with this decision. If you do not, then you will be in your comfortable in your comfort zone but won’t be able to come out of the cycle too.
Lastly, relish the fruitful outcome of the decision : Be proud of yourself and this decision you took.
When you are delighted with anything, be delighted as with a thing which is not one of those which cannot be taken away, but as something of such a kind, as an earthen pot is, or a glass cup, that, when it has been broken, you may remember what it was and may not be troubled…
What you love is nothing of your own: it has been given to you for the present, not that it should not be taken from you, nor has it been given to you for all time, but as a fig is given to you or a bunch of grapes at the appointed season of the year.
But if you wish for these things in winter, you are a fool. So if you wish for your son or friend when it is not allowed to you, you must know that you are wishing for a fig in winter.
Ever since we were kids, we’ve all played snakes and ladders
roll a dice – 6 to begin with.
Keep going on…
You either climb a ladder,
or in between your way you meet a snake and are forced to climb down.
What happens in either of the possibilities?
You are either a bit closer to winning
or are learning your lesson and start from the next checkpoint.
The snakes do temporarily cause you miss your steps,
hinder your progress for the time being,
but they do not and cannot ever stop you from progressing or winning the game.
Wanna know why?
Because you will keep rolling the dice,
it will either at times be a 6 (The greatest progress or steps you would have walked to get you closer to your goal)
Or get one or two,…small numbers which mean you are slowly slowly walking towards your goal.